This is a sacred and simple ceremony to unite husband and wife in the bonds of everlasting love and in the hopes of eternity" (pp. l loved the movie One Good Man. She finally understood that she and my son could have a ring ceremony after the temple marriage, and that could be the place and time when all her family and friends could watch. We only had a few family members there. We care that your church rules don’t allow a wedding before the sealing without the couple having to jump through the hoop of waiting a year for it. I understand that you would do it differently, and you might be right. Not that we can’t attend the temple sealing. I don’t know of anyone who is deeply offended by not being able to watch the bride and groom make sacred vows in the temple. I didn’t know that church policy prevents couples in the U.S. from doing the same. There is no such thing as a Temple Marriage in the old or new testament – why impose these exclusionary rituals on young couples who are still young and pure, causing them to believe they are doing the honorable thing by making a sacrifice of their family relationships to follow man made rules. When I was 18, my friends and I were very offended that we were not invited to our childhood friend’s wedding–only to her wedding shower and reception. Jesus didn’t care. Back a generation or two ago a ceremony was done and then a sealing separately. This is the greatest blessing I could have, to know that my husband and children are sealed to me forever. A ring ceremony isn’t enough. Why are they constantly choosing between church and family? Then all of a sudden you get married and it's this very positive thing," Willoghby told host Nancy Redd. My daughter-in-law is a convert, and she and my son waited a year after her baptism so they could be married in the temple. To see their family commit to another publicly committing to them. I go to weddings or receptions as a matter of duty. Join my mailing list to receive the latest posts. As did many early leaders. Joseph Smith married Emma and didn’t first do it in the temple. And there might be a good solution to Mormon wedding rules and regulations. 857-58). Marriage—Mormon marriage in a Mormon temple—is a pre-requisite for one day progressing to be a god like God the Father is now a God. Is your church not a global church? And why not wait a year, if something awful happens you seal people who are dead? (Sorry Your Friends Can’t Come to Your Mormon Wedding). We had family at our ceremony, and we were married in my parents house in Whiting Woods. I’m catholic. I know you have to wait a year after you are baptized to go to the temple, but I have never heard of the “rule” that if you marry civilly you must wait one year to go to the temple. LDS church allows a sealing right after. Why does a church that seals dead people require all engaged couples to marry in the temple and why do they make them wait a year if they do a civil ceremony first? You have also made predictions about those assumptions (the pain will continue as grandchildren marry). If your answer is no that says a great deal. You are welcome — but you would have to jump through “hoops” that you don’t believe. That is the reason other countries require something publicly done for the state to recognize the union. Cause you are present for it. To get a temple recommend one must successfully undergo a recommend interview in which one meets with one’s bishop and another LDS Church leader (member of the stake presidency). If a couple are married first (as I was, since my husband was not a member at the time) then the couple go to the temple for the “sealing” which has the same vows and promises but for eternity and without the marriage license — it only is recorded in the LDS church records. If they choose a civil ceremony, it would be disrespectful to the Lord — the couple would be more interested in pleasing man (family and friends on earth) than putting God first. This information includes quotes from the Encyclopedia of Mormonism.This is a work published under the supervision of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of the LDS church and produced in 1992 under the direction of an editorial board comprised primarily of BYU … We get it’s sacred to you and you don’t want to be vulnerable and have people berate the ceremony part. A church member marrying for time only, because they are already sealed will have a ceremony in the ward building. Elders Neal A. Maxwell and Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles "worked closely with" the committee that prepared it, according to an article in the LDS Church's Ensign magazine, March 1992, p. 79. His solution was to provide more wine for the wedding guests. 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